'I did everything to support her in losing weight.' Boyfriend frustrated by girlfriend's weight-loss struggles, wonders if he's crossing the line

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Brad Dickson • Managing Editor
Aug 24, 2022 2:00 PM EDT

This boyfriend has reached his wit's end with his girlfriend's dietary practices, now he's wondering if he is overstepping and the internet has given him a definitive answer. 

In a trending thread from Reddit's popular "Am I the A-Hole" subreddit, the boyfriend, Redditor u/Unlucky_Revolution27 shared his story. He has been increasingly concerned with his girlfriend's weight gain and says that he has gotten her permission to help her get back in shape. 

Commenters were quick to put him in his place and, in some lengthy comments, made clear their thoughts on the matter. They made it obvious that his girlfriend should be rethinking her relationship.

"YTA. Have you considered asking her what's driving her to eat and the need to sm*ke?" replied Reddit user andravens. "You're offering all sorts of support for the physical and nothing for the mental and emotional. If you only care about why she's gaining weight because of her looks and passing care for her physical health, you need to take a step back and re-evaluate your priorities. There is something deeper at play; if you care about her and love her, drop the talk about weight loss. Start talking to her about what's going on that's upsetting her or stressing her out or depressing her."

"He doesn't care about the mental and emotional, because you can't "see" them. He only cares about the physical because he's a shallow a-hole." responded another user. 

Sounds pretty similar to the date who lost it when his date ate too large of a salad.

Keep reading to see screenshots of the story and some key reactions below.

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    "AITA for encouraging my girlfriend to lose weight?"

    Font - I'm 27 years old and have a girlfriend of 6 years who I live with. When we first got together she had an athletic body, that all changed the past couple years when she got promoted and started working longer hours. She has started s ing wd every night claiming that it helped her relax after a hard days work. She also started eating like st. She's about 19lbs heavier than when we first met and on her 5'2 frame it definitely shows. After ignoring my subtle hints for the last year, I finally
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    Font - Today I borrowed her car and found fast food wrappers everywhere along with receipts of recent purchases. This led me to check our joint bank account and I saw she's been picking up fast food everyday since we've had that discussion about her getting healthy. Not only that she also was buying fast food during work, suggesting that she's been throwing away the meals I have prepared. This really pissed me off. I confronted her and she started crying and took accountability for her lack of d
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    Font - simply just want her to be healthy. I think I went above and beyond in my approach in how I dealt with this. Being 5'2 and gaining 19lbs of fat rapidly and she's only getting heavier. She's setting herself up for heart disease, diabetes, and could cause issues to her knees. Also, we don't even have kids yet so to be gaining this type of weight so rapidly is definitely concerning to me for her health
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    Font - StAlvis • 1 day ago & 17 More Sultan of Sphincter [726] YTA I finally sat her down last month and said enough is enough Oh FFS, my dude. I saw she's been picking up fast food everyday since we've had that discussion about her getting healthy. And that's why you don't attack people who need to work on healthier eating habits - you just push that shit underground. I paid for an expensive supplement program No one has ever lost weight by putting more stuff in their body.
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    Font - gaining 19lbs of fat rapidly I thought this was over the course of several years. I simply just want her to be healthy You have no reason to suspect she isn't. on her 5'2 frame it definitely shows You're just concerned with how attractive she is to you. 21.7k Reply Share
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    Font - SuddenWhole 23 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [25] How do you quote people like that? Is it a desktop thing? I'm always on mobile and can't seem to figure it out Reply Share 5.4k . StAlvis 23 hr. ago 10485 Sultan of Sphincter [726] Just put a > at the start of the line, then paste what they wrote. Reply Share 5.1k SuddenWhole. 23 hr. ago 32 Certified Proctologist [25] Just put a > at the start of the line, then paste what they wrote. Like that? 5.0k Reply Share ...
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    Font - andravens 1 day ago . Partassipant [2] 25 YTA. Have you considered asking her what's driving her to eat and the need to smoke? You're offering all sorts of support for the physical and nothing for the mental and emotional. If you only care about why she's gaining weight because of her looks and a passing care for her physical health you need to take a step back and re-evaluate your priorities. There is something deeper at play, if you care about her and love her, drop the talk about weigh
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    Font - Lee_Lemon_34. 1 day ago Asshole Enthusiast [5] YTA, break up with her and go find a girl that will agree to never gain a single pound even during a pandemic. Reply Share 4.6k Haunted PickleJar 22 hr. ago Or age. Or have her body change if she gets pregnant. You know normal things to expect from someone Reply Share 1.9k
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    Font - o puppyfarts99 1 day ago S Certified Proctologist [21] There's so much wrong with your post... Sigh Many questions: How do you even know how much your girlfriend weighed when you met her? How do you know how much she weighs now? Are you tracking her weight? What did your "subtle" hints consist of? You do realize that a 19lb gain over 6 years is only a smidge more than 3lbs a year, right? If you no longer want to be with your girlfriend because she's gained 19lbs, just go ahead and break u
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    Font - stacity 23 hr. ago 23 Pooperintendant [59] YTA I know a way that can help her drop +/-150 lbs instantly while preserving her heart health including detoxifying. Wanna take a wild guess OP? Reply Share 2.1k FandomNerd126 - 23 hr. ago I love this 148 Reply Share
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